In the last year my husband has pointed out that I use these two words often. Too often. His point is that I do alot of mulling over different topics important to our lives that I keep to myself. Then when pressed I will say, "I was thinking...." or "I think about it...." or "I should have done that..." or "we should be thinking about this...".
One personality trait that I so much admire in him is that he is always verbally communicating, constantly seeking change to make a situation or the future better. He is a fantastic problem solver and manages workplace and home challenges with logic and foresight.
I am really trying to become more pro-active and talkative about not only everyday-like stuff decisions but those which will potentially change the course of our life experience together. I have always been quietly independent and more emotional than he. Not crazy emotional with crying and moodiness and demands. Just more choices made from my heart, not necessarily my head. These years of marriage have become a special gift waiting to be opened. And I am finally getting around to removing the ribbon, ripping the paper off , with the tingling- of-butterflies-anticipation which comes from knowing the gift held inside the box. I treasure his partnership, his advice. Learning and absorbing what I can learn from his temperment and life balance.
What advice can I give you? Share. Talk. Use specific examples. Voice your fears. Your joys. Question whatever you think you should. Listen. Learn. Ask for opinions. Offer choice. Seek change. Decide for yourself. For your family. And, above all, let your love be heard in your words, your actions. Be true to yourself. Never sell what you have to say short. You count.
